A major fear is being lied to deceived which brings me to the main question of this article: Why do men lie? I’m talking about human nature – no one gender is more or less habitually a “liar”.
Though I didn’t want or like Bin Laden…two other men that I’d dated during my era as an actress-model in North Africa were also billionaires…of them married a Black woman, the other married a Korean. So, you see, this is the other side of the coin…one that isn’t talked about.
Luckily I went on to marry a wonderful Black Man, a marine, Simon Palacio, who during our 10 year marriage selling his own electronics to the U. Black Women may not get the hoodrat athletes and rappers.
When I am committed to them and act nice and devoted, they start to look elsewhere. Am I cursed to be alone just because I know how to be kind to women? So how is it that all these successful men are not connecting with all these successful women? Because there’s much more going on than merely a meeting of the minds. The flip side of being analytical is being difficult. The flip side of having moral clarity is being arrogant.
Anyway, in short, I need some serious help and hope to hear back from you soon. I’m what you’d call a “nice guy.” I make a good living, I’m pretty attractive, and I treat women well. Isn’t being nice a Men reading this might empathize with Jason. What never occurs to some women is that: They’re being evaluated on far more than their most “impressive” traits. The flip side of being entrepreneurial is being a workaholic.
There was once a time when men used to be real men.
When they dressed with style, when they had a certain honor code they followed that involved treating not only their elders and each other with respect, but women alike. There are of course certain men out there who still have their affairs in order, but we are few in number.
In fact, all of my female friends comment on what a great catch I am. Women reading this may feel bad for him, yet also want to him to know that it’s not BECAUSE he’s nice that he’s not attracting women. It’s because he constantly seeks the approval of others. It’s because he sacrifices his personal power to be conciliatory. These traits sometimes come with a significant downside that is painful to acknowledge. The flip side of being charismatic is being self-centered.
These are common attributes of nice guys, yet nice guys think that women don’t like nice guys BECAUSE they’re nice. Again, not EVERY person who is bright is opinionated, and not EVERY person who is funny is sarcastic.
Her paper documents how AAWE leadership traits are very different from white women’s.