It seems that the dating world is full of guys being overly cool and girls being uncommonly cold.
How then, can we find our perfect match if both guys and girls try their best to seem uninterested?
Our automatic response is to chase when the "other" pulls away.
If only it was solely used for those reasons, then the world would be a much better place.
Unfortunately, those of us who don’t see the benefits that mind games offer tend to use it for devious purposes – specifically, relationships.
One minute you're high on the warmth of their attention, the next minute you're frozen out and left wondering what happened. Whether you call it push/pull, on/off, or hot and cold, the end result is the same. Whether done consciously or unconsciously, this type of behavior activates longing and pursuit. If we don't understand the game of hot and cold, we can find ourselves pulled into a drama of confusion. Understanding this type of behavior is crucial even for those of you committed to not playing games.
Behavioral extremes indicate a power play is being employed. Once we have the ability to see hot and cold for what it is, we're less likely to suffer its negative effects.
In the context of dating games, your love interest is your adversary, and you have to find a way to outmaneuver them in the arena of love.
To keep your love interest interested, follow these guidelines.But then I mentioned it to my other single friends—both men and women—and they all professed similar experiences.It appears the "the chase" has become something more of a war. There's the timeless art of seduction, and then there's being a jerk.But the fact that they still give you some kind of encouraging signal suggests that you are the one they want to get “caught” by.But if you find yourself in the situation of not knowing whether they will even answer your calls, then the chances are, you are not their type. It's long been the rule that when dating someone whose behavior is marked by hot and cold reactivity, you're standing on shaky ground.