“But," says marriage and family therapist Joan Sherman, "if it’s happening 24-seven, it’s a problem.
You were married to her once and you both shared some really good times. Finally you both decided to close the curtains on your marriage. For some reason, it seems like she’s moved on and you haven’t…or at least you haven’t got somebody special in your life to move on with.
And if you are, it somehow makes it more difficult to cope.
You will need to sort out your feelings and come to terms with his presence in her life and that of your kids.
We’re assuming here that you can’t stand the sight of him, and there are kids involved, why else would you be in constant touch with your ex-wife?
What they are doing is really uncool and unacceptable.
Your ex and "your friend" are the ones who should feel stupid, NOT YOU! Their relationship is working because of the "scandalous and forbidden" element. When that wears off, and everyone in the community moves on to the next piece of gossip, and your ex and your friend really get to know each other, the appeal will fade. He or she could be doing this to you to act out his or her passive aggressive anger. This maturational process resembles what children go through as they separate from their parents and take responsibility for their lives.Prior to healthy separation, teenagers often blame their parents for their unhappiness, feel like victims and angrily cite their parents' shortcomings (e.g., "they're too self-centered" or "they don't understand me") as causes for the problems. I felt like a naïve chump who was the subject of their laughter. If you find yourself in this situation, here are some tips on how to handle it and how to keep from going insane: 1. Plus, when the relationship ends, the only thing people will remember is how you reacted. DO NOT make a scene and get into a girl fight with the girl. You don't' have to be overly friendly to your ex and your friend. I think, "My ex is dating my friend" is very common, especially if you live in the suburbs, where everyone knows everyone. I remember people in my neighborhood would tell me they saw them out and I would seriously cringe, and then go home and cry. Make sure not to react in front of others because it could get back to your ex and your friend (I mean, your ex friend). Holding on to previous romantic attachments creates feelings of distrust and can stymie an otherwise promising relationship.