When we first met he said he was open to marriage and children and he seemed to be smitten by me. ” ~Fed-up in Portland Well “fed-up in Portland” I’m going to share a quiz that you can use to identify the non-committal man and avoid wasting your PRECIOUS TIME with him.
If he follows, you’ll know you’ll have yourself a boyfriend who values you and will follow you to the end of the earth. If he doesn’t, then he’s not all that serious about keeping you in his life, is he? Obviously, that only means one thing: I’m not nearly as good at explaining myself as I thought I was.
”My question is, what is the right way to walk away? I feel like having a break-up talk is close to the same as giving him an ultimatum. So thank you for reminding me to dig deeper, to straighten out the subtle nuances of the concept of walking away.
You're free to stay in denial, return to Google, type in the exactly the same search inquiry that got you here and resume the search to find what you want to hear- that there's hope, when there's not.
Here's the thing about non-committal men which you have to learn: they're both a blessing and a curse, but to gain the blessing to which they offer you're going to have to play their game, like a mime to an onlooker, and if your heart is already in his hands I don't recommend trying this until you can detach yourself.
He doesn't appear to really care about you as much as he says he does, and it is likely that he says he does, non-committal men are very good at talking "ifs" and "whens" and indeed can be very charming, but they never really pull through. If you enjoy the time and company this guy has to offer you, take it as just that.
He's likely sticking around to use you sexually; you don't have to have sex with anyone to benefit from them.
Pho-dating can be of value, but first you need to know exactly what kind of person you're dealing with so that you don't end up hurting a good guy. He's the sketchy date, he's there when he's there, but he's detached when he's not. Now let me tell you how to use your prize: Non-committal guys will hang onto you, while still going out to see if there's someone better they can trade you in for.
He's likely a flake, and he has many excuses as to why he suddenly cancels, (or "can't make it"), doesn't call you back, answer your texts, or take you out on an actual date (or if he does, he has an excuse as to why he's not ready for a commitment.) He often has a specific time of day or night in which he wants to see you (a common trait to men who are dating around: Jessica on Mondays, Lisa on Tuesdays, Rebecca on Friday, you get the picture) and along with this he seems to want to go to the same staple spots when he does see you. They'll likely do the same thing to whoever they find.
One to many very sweet, very attractive, very worthy but vulnerable women fall into waiting for the non-committal man to set a rock onto one side of the scale, in hopes that the side which weighs the heaviest will be their side.
You women who read this are looking for an answer on how to get a guy who's on the fence to fall for you, and I'm sorry to have to say this because I know it hurts, but you can't.
If you see any of these six warning signs in your relationship, you may need to jump ship.